Why are 3, 7 and 10 years old as important turning points?
Within about three years from the age of 0, brain nerve cells have been proliferating. The number of nerve cells in the brain reaches a peak at 3 to 4 years old, and then decreases at around 7 years old. The child's brain "sets its shape" after the age of 10. 🗣
Therefore, 3, 7 and 10 years old are not only turning points in the development of the brain, but also the golden period of strengthening potential. Once you miss the critical period of your child's brain development, you won't be able to make it up even if you take more talent classes in the future! If you want to make your children better and help them win at the starting point, you must grasp these three golden periods and exercise your children's brain potential from an early age!
0 to 3 years old: develop brain instinct😙
The key to training the brain's potential during this period is to cultivate the foundation of brain function-instinct. And to build a brain foundation that is also active when you grow up, the focus is on training the brain's nerve cells to have the most basic instincts.
Children before the age of 3 will have the instincts of survival, seeking knowledge and finding companions one after another. These instincts can also make children’s brains show various characteristics, such as wanting to compete, wanting to imitate, wanting to do something on their own, or wanting to be a companion to people around them such as mothers or siblings.
For example, tell the child: "Take away the toys." After speaking, but there is no movement, you might as well say: "Let's play, who will clean up quickly!" The child will start to organize after listening. Tell the child: "Run!" But the child is still slow, it is better to suggest: "Look who runs over there first." The child will have fighting spirit and run forward. These are the reactions that are further triggered after the survival instinct develops the characteristics of wanting to compete. In addition, although children do not like to stuff too much knowledge in duckling style, they will feel happy about learning a little new stuff. This is because the instinct for knowledge produces the characteristics of wanting to imitate and want to do something on their own.
To exercise the instinct of brain nerve cells, it is necessary to make good use of these "want ○ ○" characteristics. While becoming a companion, mothers also accumulate the experience of "competition" or "knowing more" together.
There is no requirement for results at the age of 0 to 3 years old. Don't think about whether the child can do a lot of things. Or is it better than others? The important thing is to let the child talk in a happy mood, and often praise the child.
3 to 7 years old: Get rid of bad brain habits😉
The phrase "do it later" represents the feeling of "I don't want to do it." In other words, children who always talk about "wait a minute" cannot activate the self-compensation system if their brains cannot cultivate the mood of actively wanting to do it; the self-compensation system does not work, so thinking and memory will naturally not be able to be fully utilized. If there is no ambition to follow through to the end, it will eventually become a head that can achieve nothing.
When the child says "wait a minute", first think about why the child doesn't want to do it right away. If it’s because you have other things you want to do, for example, because you’re playing video games, you’ll answer "I’ll do it later" when you hear you want to clean up the room. In this case, you can ask your child: "Now I’m going to clean up, and it’s all right after eating. Play video games as much as you want. Which thing do you think is better?” This way of responding is to promote the activation of the self-compensation system and let the child proactively say: "I will sort it out now."
In addition, if the child doesn't like to tidy up the room, he might as well devise a game-like way to have fun with the child, so that the prerequisite is to get rid of the feeling of "hate". In short, please observe your children carefully and guide them properly. Don't let your children develop the habit of delaying everything.
Appropriate "pruning" from 3 to 7 years old is very important to thoroughly lay the foundation of the brain nerve conduction circuit network. This is not a period for teaching knowledge and skills. At this stage, the goal is to lay a solid foundation, build a brain that can both study and exercise, and focus on getting rid of the "bad brain habits" that affect brain function, instinct, and heart.
7 years old to 10 years old: cultivate the active good habits of the brain😆
After 7 to 10 years old, it is suitable to enter the stage of learning. However, from the perspective of training the brain's potential, there is one thing that parents must pay attention to, and that is, never say "Go to school" to their children.
In this period, the brains of children belong to the more they accept the instructions and commands of their parents, the worse their performance will become. Therefore, adults with rich life experience must properly guide a clear path, and the main key is "throwing out good problems." . It is suggested that in this situation, good questions can be used, and the command "This is the right thing to do!" is changed to multiple-choice questions and asked with "What do you want to do?" so that the child can choose by himself.
For example, if a child is not good at natural sciences, parents just say "Natural sciences should work harder!" or "Ask the teacher if they don't understand." This still can't stimulate the child's motivation. Why not use this method instead: "Mom was also very afraid of natural sciences when I was a child! However, as long as I don’t understand anything, I would ask the teacher. After a few times, natural sciences became my best subject. Then you yourself What do you want to do next?"
After talking about this, it doesn't matter if you tell the child the answer clearly. Or you can suggest two ways to ask your child "Which one do you want to choose?" The important thing is to let the child say "I want to do this too!" "I will do it!" If you want your child to think about solutions, just say "Maybe there is a better way, think about it first, and talk about it tomorrow! You are a mother's child, and you must think of a good way." Try to use this kind of suggestion to stimulate your child's self-esteem. After the child has worked hard to figure it out, don't forget to praise it vigorously: "It's really a mother's child!" In this way, the child develops a good habit of self-learning, and it can be counted as cultivating a truly good mind.
The focus of brain potential exercise after the age of 7 to 10 is to use the function of the self-compensation system. To improve the function of the self-compensation system, the key to properly guiding children is to "throw out good problems."